Jon Solo Sebastian 09/12/2025:
Nothing lasts forever….
Time flies, and tomorrow isn’t promised. I’m still sort of working things out with this one, and I’m in my 40’s. I’m certainly not a procrastinator, though I used to be one many years ago. Now, I just can’t fit everything into the time I have, so things get pushed back. If you’re a subscriber/follower of my blog, you’ll notice I haven’t posted anything for a few weeks. It’s not because I don’t want to… I just have so many things going on, and so many things that I do NOT want to miss out on. God knows I’ve missed out on some very important things these last few years.
So, I suppose the lesson is a two-part one. Time Management, and deciding what can and cannot wait until tomorrow.
A sad lesson or two come to mind here. When Covid placed its grip on the planet, many of us essentially stopped in our tracks. I still had to work every day, so for the most part, my life kept going close-ish to normal. The thing is, is that during that time—especially before we knew much about it, I avoided being close to my parents; mostly due to my father having so many health issues at that point. He was on oxygen 24/7, so even before Covid, I would try to not see my parents too often during flu season and all that. I’m around a lot of people daily, so I never wanted to bring germs to him. The thing that sucked so bad about this, is right around when things were getting better, my dad passed away. He got pneumonia in January of 2022, and it killed him. So, I and my family, basically lost so much time with him during the pandemic…. time we never got back. I can’t really explain how it feels, but I can say it still bothers me. It’s something I often think about. While the intentions were good, I also regret not seeing him more during that time.
Another example with a similar outcome is when one of my Aunt’s passed away. We lost touch for a time when I was younger. Nothing bad, it’s just sort of how things go with some families. Everyone gets married and has kids, and become busier, so the bigger family get togethers tend to become less and less each year. My aunt found me on social media several years ago, and we’d chat here and there. It was nice. She was such a sweetheart. We kept saying we’d get together for lunch or dinner, but you know how things go… you think about it, but you never make time for it. We, as humans, have the “Oh, we can do that tomorrow, or next weekend.” We rarely think that tomorrow could be too late. Unfortunately, it was. She died in a car accident around two years ago.
I know these examples are about loss, but this pertains to everything in every day life. I’ve recently put just about everything on hold because I’ve been working on a film I wrote. For the last month to two months we were scouting locations, working on casting the characters, and building/desigining sets along with everything else that goes into making a film. We’re currently three days into filming, and I’m so happy to be playing a huge part of the production. I initially thought I was just the writer, but I’m heavily involved in the entire production, and I’m having the time of my life. I wasn’t going to miss this for anything.
On another note, I have learned that if I am able to spend time with my mom, my in-laws, or other members of the family and close friends, I push everything aside… I love them, and I don’t want to miss out on spending time with them. I’ve gotten better with my time management, as well. I’ve met my goals for phone usage every day this year so far, so that’s huge. I know many of us doom scroll and all that… I’m finally able to say that I no longer do that, and I spend more of my time looking forward and upward rather than down at a screen. I do occassionally wonder how different things might be if I had learned this ten years ago. I’m glad I’m more aware of it now, and working to maintain the course correction.
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